Absolutely gorgeous writing that made me tear up as I wait for my 5mo old + toddler to wake this morning, and the daily (beautiful) chaos to begin. I relate so hard. My brain is mush but I’ve never felt more clear about my purpose in the world. All to say, thank you for this!
i'm not much of a commenter but this is so gorgeous, i just had to tell you. i felt it in my bones. motherhood is the most consuming, beautiful, sacrificial, rewarding thing, and while i miss and crave things from the before times, there is nothing on earth like these sweet, sacred--and too fleeting--moments with the tiny people i made.
This sentence rocked me, "My professional imposter syndrome is never louder than right after I’ve finished building someone else’s bones from scratch." ♥️
Such beautiful writing, Harling, and I also have lists about lists about lists all over my desk! Something cracked with my third baby and bits of my working memory and executive functioning seeped down into that crack and actually, I don't think it will ever come back. I'm building around it, instead. Also so with you on the creative frustration. The more fulsome my mothering, the more thwarted my creative output, and let's not even go there with the teeth. Sending you much love and solidarity.
Thank you for posting this. It is unbelievably good to hear people I admire still feeling like they aren't able to achieve everything they want, and feeling jealousy of others online. I'm pregnant with my first. I already feel constantly like I am not producing enough of the creative things that I want to and am nervous about the transition to motherhood taking even more of my time and brain power. But I understand being a mother is beyond special, and there will a time and a season for everything.
I’m crying reading this from a rocking chair with a snot-filled sleeping two year old in my arms. I feel immense guilt and shame when I see creative work that I wish I did and I miss doing. But then I remember I’m dedicating this time of my life to creating this amazing wonderful little boy. It’s still hard. This made me feel so seen. Thank you.
This is so relatable. You’ve actually been on my mind! Wondering how things have been going, especially since I’m about to give birth to my second, and have been curious about the experience for you (my brain feels like scrambled eggs!). I always love reading about how you combine fashion + life + career. Thank you for sharing, and welcome back 🙏 take your time ❤️
What a treat! I am at the opposite end of life…I have grandchildren slightly older than your children and two that are much older…your writing brings wonderful memories and sweet thoughts. Thank you!
Oooof - this is so beautiful. I’m reading it waiting for my 2 year old and 5 year old to wake up for the day and now I’m counting down the moments. What a DEEP journey motherhood is! Congrats on your bub and thank you for putting this into words. 💛
As a writer on the verge of motherhood, I really needed this today. Thank you so much for sharing. It's a beautiful reminder that though my creative life will certainly change, that change shouldn't be anticipated as worse or the end of my creativity.
Absolutely gorgeous writing that made me tear up as I wait for my 5mo old + toddler to wake this morning, and the daily (beautiful) chaos to begin. I relate so hard. My brain is mush but I’ve never felt more clear about my purpose in the world. All to say, thank you for this!
Thank you so much Anna ❤️❤️❤️
i'm not much of a commenter but this is so gorgeous, i just had to tell you. i felt it in my bones. motherhood is the most consuming, beautiful, sacrificial, rewarding thing, and while i miss and crave things from the before times, there is nothing on earth like these sweet, sacred--and too fleeting--moments with the tiny people i made.
Thank you so much Katie ❤️❤️❤️
This sentence rocked me, "My professional imposter syndrome is never louder than right after I’ve finished building someone else’s bones from scratch." ♥️
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this makes me want to be a mom so bad♥️
Such beautiful writing, Harling, and I also have lists about lists about lists all over my desk! Something cracked with my third baby and bits of my working memory and executive functioning seeped down into that crack and actually, I don't think it will ever come back. I'm building around it, instead. Also so with you on the creative frustration. The more fulsome my mothering, the more thwarted my creative output, and let's not even go there with the teeth. Sending you much love and solidarity.
THANK YOU PANDORA <3
Beautiful writing. It really resonated with my shrunken brain.
Thank you Maria!! ❤️❤️❤️
I was just thinking of you this weekend! Welcome back!
Thank you for posting this. It is unbelievably good to hear people I admire still feeling like they aren't able to achieve everything they want, and feeling jealousy of others online. I'm pregnant with my first. I already feel constantly like I am not producing enough of the creative things that I want to and am nervous about the transition to motherhood taking even more of my time and brain power. But I understand being a mother is beyond special, and there will a time and a season for everything.
I’m crying reading this from a rocking chair with a snot-filled sleeping two year old in my arms. I feel immense guilt and shame when I see creative work that I wish I did and I miss doing. But then I remember I’m dedicating this time of my life to creating this amazing wonderful little boy. It’s still hard. This made me feel so seen. Thank you.
Thank you Sarah ❤️❤️❤️ solidarity with the mucus
This is so relatable. You’ve actually been on my mind! Wondering how things have been going, especially since I’m about to give birth to my second, and have been curious about the experience for you (my brain feels like scrambled eggs!). I always love reading about how you combine fashion + life + career. Thank you for sharing, and welcome back 🙏 take your time ❤️
Thank you Phoenix!! Wishing you a smooth labor and easy transition ❤️❤️❤️
So beautiful, Harling. I’ve missed you! Thank you for the reminder that it’s ok to be content ‘just’ being a mom 🫶
Ps: the dental issues sound horrific. I’m so sorry you went through that at such a tender time.
Thank you Shannon!! ❤️❤️❤️
In the same stage as you. Toddler boy (3) and 5 month old baby girl. Your writing was so encouraging today.
so glad ❤️❤️❤️
What a treat! I am at the opposite end of life…I have grandchildren slightly older than your children and two that are much older…your writing brings wonderful memories and sweet thoughts. Thank you!
Oooof - this is so beautiful. I’m reading it waiting for my 2 year old and 5 year old to wake up for the day and now I’m counting down the moments. What a DEEP journey motherhood is! Congrats on your bub and thank you for putting this into words. 💛
Thank you Lindsey!! ❤️❤️
As a writer on the verge of motherhood, I really needed this today. Thank you so much for sharing. It's a beautiful reminder that though my creative life will certainly change, that change shouldn't be anticipated as worse or the end of my creativity.
thank you so much Zoe! and congratulations!!